How does one love best?
Where does love come from? Where does it begin and does it have an end?
In today's world, a popular way to think of love is a feeling one can get in an out of. One can be "in love" and "fall out of love". It is feeling like you're on top of the world one day and feeling "what was I thinking" the next. But is this really what love is?
To love best, one must find the true meaning of love. Is it to find someone we are attracted to because they have a bright smile or long lashes or run fast or cook well? What then when they lose their teeth, when their lashes fall out, when they slow down or get too lazy to cook? Is love really as fragile as a butterfly that is here and then gone the next day?
Maybe it would be better to look at love that is constant no matter what happens. The love that is there through thick and thin. This is the kind of love we hear at weddings, "for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health".
Love comes from God alone. He is love and He is the author of it. He taught us to love by loving us first. Therefore, only by loving God can we love like He does and not the kind of butterfly love the world teaches about.
When we love God, we will want to do what He tells us - and in so doing, we take on His mind more and more.
Once we love God with our all, it is a natural progression to love others for we will love who God loves. We will learn to see people with God's eyes rather than the eyes that look towards selfish gain.
When we have learned to love others, and express that love freely, then we will love ourselves.
We can only love the self that gives and cares about others. We can only run away from the self that is isolated and self-serving, the self we can't bear to look at in the morning.
When we love God, He transforms us to love others and ourselves in a much deeper way.
We can only love ourselves if we first love others and we can only love others if we love God with our all.
If we start the other way around, gratify our selves first then others and God last, we won't get past just looking out for ourselves. We will get stuck there, and in the end, won't be very happy just caring for ourselves. We were made for communion with God and with others.
So if we want to love others and ourselves better, love God first of all.